Archives for July 2012

Being Your Own Champion

“I think self-awareness is probably the most important
thing towards being a champion.”

Billy Jean King
Olympic Gold Medal Coach, Tennis

With the London 2012 Olympics upon us, I thought it was important to talk about being your own champion. This quote by Billy Jean King, a champion tennis player and a US Olympic Tennis Coach embodies my thoughts on the subject. But, being your own champion doesn’t necessarily involve being an Olympian, it may just involve reaching a small personal goal. But isn’t the path to discovering your true potential and purpose a collection of smaller steps?

I’m a big believer in the power of self-awareness, love and empowerment. I would like to share one of my favorite passages from my book Alpha Chick with you:

“Living my life as an Alpha Chick, I am aware now of my true potential and purpose. Self-awareness and serenity are my reality. Most of the time my life runs like a finely tuned piece of machinery, with all parts working in harmony with one another. I am no longer pulled in conflicting directions. I begin each day knowing and loving the woman I am. I appreciate everything I have: my husband, my health, my homes and my work.”

In life, we can cling to denial so vehemently, that it may become all we know. It blocks out positive energy and binds us to the past. But once you release your self-awareness, you can begin to accept what has happened in your past, stop resisting it and find forgiveness. Only then, you can approach life with a new attitude.

I invite you to download the Alpha Chick Action Guide which is based on the Five Steps for Moving from Pain to Power that helped me change my life dramatically and is the structure of my coaching and my book Alpha Chick. The five steps together spell FAITH, embrace your FAITH and use the guide to help you through the changes that are necessary to discover your true voice and become your own champion.

F Focus
A Acceptance
I Identification
T Thoughts
H Healing

Congratulations on making the commitment to begin your personal transformation and embarking upon an amazing journey toward self-empowerment.

If you feel that you need some personal guidance along the way, please check out myEmpowerment Coaching services and packages.

Live Faithfully,
Mal Duane

Mal Duane is a Best Selling Author and Personal Life and Recovery Coach who has overcome life challenges using the steps in the Alpha Chick Process. Her personal mission is to help women excel in all areas of their lives from business to personal relationships. Mal has been featured with Fox 25 Boston Morning Show, Aspire Magazine, Healthy Living and Metrowest Daily News. She has also been a featured guest on over thirty Blogtalk Radio shows discussing recovery and personal transformation.

Mal’s book, Alpha Chick, Five Steps for Moving from Pain to Power, is a best selling book and is available on Amazon.com.

Never Let Obstacles Get In Your Way

“Stand up to your obstacles and do something about them.

You will find that they haven’t half the strength you think they have”

-Norman Vincent Peale

In life, you will need to overcome many obstacles to be successful. This is true no matter what goal or accomplishment you are pursuing. If you are reaching toward a large objective, rest assured there will be some problems and roadblocks along the way.

Remember when a challenge appears, there is usually a lesson to be learned from it. Look for the seed of wisdom in the situation even if it is uncomfortable. Don’t allow others to sway you from your purpose. When you seek approval from others, you live by their standards, not your own. Learn to trust your own judgment. With practice you will recognize that your gut feeling is the right one. When you feel the vibration within, you will know that you are walking the right path.

With focus, preparation, training and commitment anything can be accomplished.

Here are my 4 steps to reaching any goal

Focus on your target. Write down in full, brilliant detail the thing you’d like to achieve. Then imagine yourself achieving it. What will reaching your goal feel like?
Gather your thoughts. Use your journal to write down all of the steps it will take to achieve your goal, from beginning to end.
Train properly to reach your goal. Whether it’s a degree, a certificate, or performing more research to gain a better understanding of how to achieve it.
Commit to your goal. Do at least one thing (large or small) to help you get closer to reaching it every day.

Stick to this plan, and before you know it, you will have reached your target

I congratulate you on making the commitment to begin your personal transformation and embarking upon an amazing journey toward self-empowerment.

If you feel that you need some personal guidance along the way, please check out my Empowerment Coaching services and packages.

Live Faithfully,
Mal Duane

Mal’s book, Alpha Chick, Five Steps for Moving from Pain to Power, is a best selling book and is available on Amazon.com.

Accept Yourself As You Are!

Accept yourself as YOU are!

“Once we believe in ourselves we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit.”

E.E. Cummings

Fat. Ugly. Wrinkled. Have you ever found yourself looking in the mirror, when one of those words has crossed your mind? It’s labels like these that keep us focused on the superficial, add to our emotional baggage, and generally make us unhappy. So, I ask you: Why use labels? They are meant for clothes! An Alpha Chick always focuses on the positive, so I’m going to show you how.

Stop comparing yourself to other people: All of us were put on this earth as individuals, and we all have gifts and traits that are unique to us. Focus on the positive and let go of the negative labels.
Speak kindly to yourself: The next time you look in the mirror and think something negative, stop yourself and say something positive instead. It could be anything, from “Your hair looks great today,” to “I am a great mom to my kids.” Just a small adjustment can reset your attitude from negative to positive.
Share your positive feelings: People often are quick to complain or share negative feelings before they share positive ones. If someone brightened your day, even in a small way, be sure to let them know! Even a quick tweet can return the good feelings, it’s amazing how quickly sunshine can spread!
Self-care: Take a few minutes each day to do something nice for yourself: get a manicure, shut the phone off, take a walk, give yourself a hug.
Create a Gratitude List: Use the one in the Alpha Chick Action Guide for Personal Transformation, available on AlphaChick.com, or just use your journal. Every evening, before you go to bed, write down five things that you really appreciated from the day. Just noticing these things can help bring a smile to your face, and bring peace to your heart. You will not believe how this energy grows! Before you know it, you will be experiencing so much appreciation in your life for all the wonderful small things you never noticed before.

Take a few minutes every day to rid yourself of all the negative labels in your life and focus on your inner beauty. Remember that each person on this earth is unique, and you were put here for a reason.

I congratulate you on making the commitment to begin your personal transformation and embarking upon an amazing journey toward self-empowerment. If you feel that you need some personal guidance along the way, please check out my Empowerment Coachingservices and packages.

Live Faithfully,
Mal Duane

Mal’s book, Alpha Chick, Five Steps for Moving from Pain to Power, is a best selling book and is available on Amazon.com.