Here are 5 Steps to Turn Your Dreams to Reality

If you missed it last week, my new book “Choosing Happiness” which is an anthology with an amazing group of women hit NO 1 on five different lists on Amazon. We even out performed ”Ruby” which is Oprah’s top pick this month and Tony Robbin’s new book. It was such an exciting day watching this baby work its way up. Here is the link to Amazon if you didn’t grab your copy yet. >>> //amzn.to/1CoUbMG

But in the middle of all this excitement, I had a battle going on in my head. As good as life can be, there will always be challenges sneaking around the corner.

It hit me like a lightning bolt that I am carrying some old crap around. This stuff is actually influencing my perception of the present moment. I physically feel like something heavy is on my shoulders. So I stopped everything and just sat with what I was feeling.

After about thirty minutes of just paying attention to my breath and the way my body felt, these thoughts started to emerge. I was feeling resentment, I was carrying judgment and I had the need to be right. These are three of the most significant blocks to inner peace and real joy.

I was thinking who me? Yes that mini me, the voice of the ego that I call Louise was screaming in my head. The big conscious me, know better Mal was thinking that I am way too smart to get trapped in such a negative mindset. While the inner battle was going on, I was finding myself trapped in the middle of all this mind clutter.

I know how to clear resentment and judgment through meditation and journaling. Also being a practitioner of the Course in Miracles has done wonders. However I couldn’t shake that feeling, that need to prove to myself that I was right about something that had happened. The more I contemplated the issue, the more agitated I became. Holy crap, I was right!

So do I let these poisonous self-righteous thoughts sicken my state of happiness? Hell no, I needed to take affirmative action. I created affirmations around my struggle and repeated them to myself throughout the day. I wrote in my gratitude journal and expressed appreciation for that sixth sense of mine that shows up every now and then. My attachment to my thoughts started to soften. I was able to envision a more realistic perception than the one I was clinging to.

I know when this inner mental battle starts whipping me around, I have to step up and make a conscious choice to think differently, to think about being happy.

I can focus on being right or I can pull my vibration up and get in alignment with what I really want. I understand fully that what I put my attention on will show up in my physical experience. So this girl is choosing to stay with what feels better. The best part of this entire process is the situation is no longer controlling how I feel. I worked through it and actually decided to take a much more empowering path that will get me where I need to be.

So the big lesson here, is continue to Choose Happiness, it really works.

Love and Live Faithfully,

Mal

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2014 has presented me with some of my greatest challenges. These painful and disruptive experiences, which I call lessons from earth school have inspired me to reach a new level of personal growth and self-reflection.

I must admit there were times that I didn’t feel like being compassionate and forgiving of unacceptable behavior. I wanted to say F-off or better yet hit my opposition with a barrage of insults. Instead, I walked away slowly and thought things through. I listened to my head instead of my bruised ego.

I have been pushed and pulled this year in directions I never thought possible. In the midst of these internal emotional hurricanes, I understood that living my truth, being who I am and not ignoring my boundaries was the path I needed to take.

There are people in my life that I have loved but they are no longer in alignment with my mission and my desire to serve women who are emotionally wounded. In some way I threaten them because I choose not to conform to their demands of me.

Do I really want to stop in the midst of fulfilling my divine purpose on this planet to ease the wounded ego of someone who deep down probably doesn’t like me much anyway?

I started this journey three years ago when I released my book. I have met thousands of women with extraordinary stories who have faced fear and allowed their pain to propel them to living with purpose. As we grow spiritually we shed layers, similar to a caterpillar becoming a butterfly. I feel my wings spreading, my heart’s desire becoming more real each day. I have a purpose while I am here to help women heal and reclaim their lives. I am not going to quit just because I am challenged, insulted, mistreated or emotionally bullied.

This year I discovered that I am stronger than I ever thought I could be. I am more loving in the most compassionate way. I know how to truly forgive others and myself.

I have developed an awareness to make choices that empower me but do not cripple others.

My work is about collaboration, not competition. I feel the grace of the Holy Spirit around me, guiding me. My intentions are for the highest and best outcome for all parties involved.

I can feel my emotional and spiritual growth. My anger is short lived. I do not need to win or be right. I just want to walk away with peace of mind. Tomorrow when I wake up I will be calm and feel complete. I will know that I did the very best I could the day before. I feel comfortable I took the high ground and stayed out of the muddy fields of revenge and cruel attacks on the individuals that challenged me. I send them love instead to heal the wounds that are buried so deep within them that they don’t know they exist.

Courage to do the right thing regardless…is the greatest gift I have received this year.

In what ways did you grow this year? I would love to hear what spiritual muscles you strengthened this year.

Love and Live Faithfully,

Mal

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Yesterday I was puttering around my home and starting to take out some Christmas decorations when someone I love called me with a request. Immediately I knew it wasn’t really a request but more of an emotional confrontation. I could feel the pull on the imaginary rope in my hands. My body started to bend slightly toward them. I was listening to their point of view, their perception of a situation. Meanwhile I am thinking where the hell is this coming from? Obviously my perception was very different. In fact I was completely caught off balance by this recent tug on the rope of emotional connection between us.

I started to pull on my side just a bit to keep my balance while I processed what I was hearing. The crazy Mal from years ago would have dragged their ass down the street without even thinking. Was this the truth as I knew it? Is the other person showing me a scenario that is clouded by their perception or is it my reality? I was holding on while all these thought ran through my mind. I knew that I had been very compassionate with them. In fact I prayed for guidance daily because the relationship had become so challenged. Deep within me, my intention was very clear. I wanted to maintain a presence of grace and love in all my actions and honor my boundaries at the same time.

After they left, I made my intentions very clear in a follow up email. I was not buying into their emotional drama. They can have their perception and I can have mine. I am not responsible for what they think or feel. I choose not to engage in this conflict but instead to release the rope and walk away.

Afterwards it hit me how simple this three step process was for dealing with emotional conflict.

1. Maintain balance: Listen without over reacting to the other person’s opinion or position on what they experienced.
2. Think: What is your truth in this situation? Is your perception coming from your heart or your head where there is a hot button called ego.
3. Release: Let go of the tension in the rope that is holding the both of you in conflict. Respond from your heart and walk away.

It feels amazingly empowering not to be engaged in unconscious conflict.

Just because someone invited you into an argument doesn’t mean you have to show up!

Faithfully,

Mal

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