This week while tapping a show with the amazing Dr. Debra Reble, the topic of denial came up.

I never realized what a strong reaction I had to the word. Denial had been the thread that stitched my life together for many years until I was ready to face my truth. Facing the truth can be scary for you but I promise you will never regret it. It frees you from the bondage you placed on yourself. When you can’t live life, and be who you are meant to be, you rob the Universe of love. Fact is- you can’t give out love unless you are YOU ! What do you think you give out when you pretend to be otherwise?

The most powerful thing you can do for yourself is stop denying and start accepting your life just the way it is. I have said it before but I think it needs to be repeated. Life is a classroom and we all have lessons to learn. Every shitty situation is just a lesson you need to learn. Look at your lessons and see what is in each one that you need to learn.

The flip side of denial is when someone looks you right in the eye and denies what they have done or said. It makes me insane. I can feel it throughout my body. Do you feel utterly disrespected when someone you love denies the truth to you? Do they really think you don’t know better? It breaks the potential for trust. It creates dis-ease between two people.

Such a small word with such destructive consequences no matter what side you are on.

Time to eliminate denial from your life.

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Next Monday 5/29 on my Podcast Awakening Divine Wildness is Darlene Lancer. Holy crap, what an education about dealing with a narcissist! This hits home for so many women. I know we all have known one.

No topic is ever off the table. I have pretty much experienced everything a woman can in one lifetime and I’m not afraid to talk about it. I gave up denial along time ago. No chains on this chick!

It is probably not something you give much thought to but you should.

Awareness is everything and without it nothing happens. Janet Rigsby who teaches the lessons of the Pathworks said this the other day in an online class.

Until you can sit quietly and allow your awareness to just expand, you cannot have a deeper exploration of your experiences. You will not make positive changes in your life.

Last week I wrote about the experience of my heart being broken open. Feeling like I had a made a mistake in getting married. You know what I learned when I sat still and just listened after my divorce?

Maybe the mistake I made was not listening to my body/intuition early in the relationship.
Not trusting myself but instead dismissing my gut feeling and thinking I was being too sensitive.

When I think back, I was spot on with some of my concerns. My ego told me I was insecure but my body told me there was something very wrong going on.

Now I pay attention to everything that comes up for me when I am just being aware and allowing my thoughts and feelings to flow. I can see where I have tried to rationalize things, or when I have deceived myself. Being present allows me to drop any resistance to what is or has been and just get into a state of acceptance. The less resistance I feel, the more power I have to make different choices. Acceptance is such as freeing experience and leads to many more positive emotions.

I have discovered by being more aware, I am able to forgive. I am cutting the chords that keeps my heart attached to anything that no longer serves me or my future growth. I have been able to forgive the most painful experience of my life, the betrayal in my marriage. Honestly, it wasn’t easy. It took daily work to get to a place of peace in my mind and body. It breaks my heart to see so many women who are still consumed with anger from their divorces which may have happened years before. Carrying the anger and resentment will ultimately compromise your health. You are shutting down the possibility for future happiness.

I love this image with a quote from Mark Twain. Save it to your computer.

I was deeply touched by another woman’s comments the other day when I interviewed her for my podcast. She said “Mal, you look genuinely very happy with your life. I follow you on Facebook.”  I am happy. I love myself more today than I did before. I want the same thing for other women who have experienced divorce. As I said last week, your expectations/life may have changed but you are the same glorious soul. Nothing can take that away.

I received so many beautiful emails thanking me for being so honest about my own pain. It gave other women the courage to share what they are going through. I was deeply moved by their stories and have reached out personally to each one to talk.

I love this quote by Eckert Tolle “Rather than being your thoughts and emotions, be the awareness behind them.”

Here is your mantra for this week: I am fully aware today!

A great journaling prompt to go with it: What past experience is trying to control my present thoughts?

Happy Valentine’s Day!

I appreciate you hanging in there with me the past few years while I tried to find my voice again. You see two years ago on February 14^th, it was the icing on the cake of long term betrayal in my marriage. I won’t bore you with the heartbreaking details but that day I was left on my knees, crying my eyes out and alone! I made a pledge to myself in that moment of deep pain and sorrow that February 14^th would forever be a day to LOVE ME UP!

Valentine’s day is to honor and love ourselves as women.

I now treat myself to something nice every year, good food, message, mani-pedi or a new educational program. Last year I got my Apple watch and I love it.

This year I love myself so much for coming back with more courage and capabilities than I had before. It took a great deal of inner work to put this all behind me. Some of the things I am treating myself to are programs that inspire my mind and touch my soul.

I’m working on participating with a mastermind group at the Tony Robbins event Unleash Your Power in March.

I’m going to spend a 3-day weekend retreat with Elizabeth Gilbert in May.

I am going to take an Aromatherapy course in June.

In September, I am doing a weekend retreat with Miranda McPherson in New Hampshire.

I’m single and I am loving it. It did take some adjustment I must admit. I am totally loving me!

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