The Life Recovery Formula: Will Power + Initiative = Accomplishment

bigstockphoto_accomplishment_-_road_sign_273784811 The moment you were created you were filled with your own personal will power. As a young child you asserted yourself frequently with such expressions as No! and Mine! You fully grasped the feeling of using your will power. At three years old you could probably express your boundaries better than you do today! Slowly, life started to chip away at your will power by others telling you to be good, be quiet and good little girls don’t do that. Sadly, that free will turned into reservation, self- doubt and in many cases, fear. Your will power to be an individual and express concerns and desires became clouded over by the crap that others were saying to you. Many of the things said to you were invalid and self-serving for the other person.

Feeling like you can’t trust your very own instincts, needing to “check with” other people and procrastinating on decisions are signs that you need to go to work to build up self-confidence and begin to take action, even if you feel unsure.

Want to take that will power back, restore your self-expression to where you want it? Well you can, by eliminating those negative beliefs that no longer apply to the woman you are today. By creating a small worksheet and writing out those limiting beliefs, you can analyze what is true and what is false. When we write, we develop clarity that we otherwise might not see. You also are removing the thoughts from your mind and putting them on paper, which is in itself a cleansing process. You can just write freely in your journal about all the negative stuff that comes up when you think about the desire to assert yourself in a specific situation. The truth will emerge for the steps to take and the words to use. That is when you take initiative to create what you want.

You never lose your power, it just gets buried. Start today looking within and digging for that authentic voice, that will power and watch the miracles unfold.

Live Faithfully,
Mal

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Mal Duane is a Best Selling Author and Personal Life and Recovery Coach who has overcome life challenges using the steps in the Alpha Chick Process. Her personal mission is to help women excel in all areas of their lives from business to personal relationships. Mal has been featured with Fox 25 Boston Morning Show, CBS Radio, Aspire Magazine, Healthy Living and Metrowest Daily News. She has also been a featured guest on over one hundred Blogtalk Radio shows discussing recovery and personal transformation.

Mal’s book, Alpha Chick, Five Steps for Moving from Pain to Power, is a best selling book and is available on Amazon.com.

Life Recovery Formula: Awareness + Acceptance = Serenity

“Acceptance of what has happened is the first step to overcoming the consequences of any misfortune.” -William James

Human-Acceptance- It’s not life’s experiences that are causing your pain and suffering, it is your resistance to them. The harder you push, the greater the discomfort. You set yourself up for disappointment by having unrealistic expectations. You get so stuck in your own ideas and notions on how something should be.

Many of the expectations you form are based on past experience and not on your current reality. You may have been hurt in the past which left deep emotional scars on your heart. However, that does not mean that everything that happens from that point will have the same impact or turnout. You desperately try to manipulate the situation and rather than let it unfold, you try to control the outcome to no avail.

The mini me voice in your head is constantly advising you, and most times commanding you, to do things a certain way. You have heard enough “shoulds” to last a lifetime. How do you stop this mini war between you and the egotistical you that instructs, tries to control and pushes back? You need to stop “shoulding” on yourself now! Open your mind and heart to the flow of life instead of trying to swim against the current.

Acceptance will release you from the painful resistance and start to connect you with your current reality in a comforting way. If you look at things through the eyes of acceptance, you will recognize that old fears and perceptions were controlling your decisions and connection to those around you. Accept people the way they are, don’t try to fit them into a preconceived mold that you think is acceptable. You will notice that your connections will deepen and you will naturally feel closer to people.

Learn to relax, utilize a spiritual practice to help you connect with your inner truth. As you relax, the resistance dissolves and your life becomes measurably more enjoyable. Once we recognize our resistance and release it, we actually have more input in the desirable outcome of events that are important to us. Learning this skill is crucial to our success. It is the starting point for learning to be calm and negotiate, stops us from sabotaging new and rewarding relationships and setting boundaries instead of withdrawing and/or internalizing anger and powerlessness.

Three steps to get into the flow.

1. Become aware of your feelings/fears about the situation you are dealing with.

2. Are you reacting to the current situation or are your feelings surfacing from a past event?

3. Acknowledge the current situation and stay fully present in the moment. What can you be grateful for right now?

Life can be so much easier than you make it, if you become aware of your feelings and discern if they are justified.

Live Faithfully,
Mal

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Life Recovery Formula: Discovering the Diva within!

woman-hugging-herself To truly develop self-worth, one must look within for the divine magnificence you were born with. We are all created with this essence but it can be obscured by the words and perceptions of others. You think the right dress, or the right hairdo might make you more appealing. But ladies, true beauty comes from within.

The beauty, I am speaking of is a radiance, a light that shows up in your eyes. It is a sparkle that you emanate when you walk in to a room. That kind of beauty, you can’t buy but you can develop and restore it within yourself.

Life happens and your shining light can become dull. Your self-worth keeps getting nicked away, little by little. We develop limiting beliefs based on the opinions of others. Well, I am here to tell what someone else thinks of you is none of your business. What is of the utmost importance is what you think! When someone says something to you, it is not really about you at all. It is their baggage, it’s their stuff.

The lesson here is not to take someone’s opinion or comments as the truth. They maybe are speaking from a place of personal fear or weakness. Their motives maybe self-serving.

Once you tap into that divine magnificence at the core of your heart and soul, it’s pretty hard to dim the light. You were born to shine. To live with joy and to be happy.

Action steps you can take to tap into the divine diva within:

Do affirmations morning and night.
Add three new ones daily to your list. I have given you some samples. Write in the present tense.
1. I am happy to be me.
2. I deserve everything I want in life
3. I accept myself just the way I am
4. When you look in the mirror in the morning, give yourself a big hug and confirm that you are loved!

Please comment or send some of your affirmations.

Sending Faith, light and love your way!

Live Faithfully,
Mal

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The Life Recovery Formula™

Self-care + Self-worth + Happiness = Recovery

When life presents us with excruciating challenges, who do we take care of last?

I am honored to be teaching a class for an amazing group of women in a recovery facility. Over and over, the topic of abusing ourselves comes up. These women recognize that they put themselves last and take care of others first. Even people that have harmed them or been unkind come before they do?

Sadly, this is a common situation with women in general. We habitually put ourselves last. My thoughts are if American airlines is telling you to put your mask on first if the plane is going down, is a pretty strong statement about taking care of yourself before helping others. If we don’t, we run out of oxygen. Get the picture!

The practice of self-care over a period of time creates a stronger, self-loving confident woman that becomes a better contributor in everything she does. Her relationships, her employment and physical demeanor all become measurably improved.

Here are some tips on how to put you first.

Take one hour in the morning for meditation/spiritual practice. If you need to get up an hour earlier than everyone else.
Schedule a treat for yourself weekly. Maybe a mani/pedi or a message. How about a new book?

I just finished reading Debbie Ford’s “Courage”. Great information about pushing through life’s challenges.

Take a walk in the middle or the end of the day, get some exercise and fresh air. It is a great place to think through important decisions.
A new perfume, lipstick, or makeup can be a real refresher when we need it.
Maybe watch an old romance movie on TV? Curl up with a cup of lavender or green tea.
Create a vision board with pictures of things you would like to attract into your life. This is a very powerful practice. (Worked on my getting my home and my dog)
Get a personal Life/Recovery coach for a session on how to create the life you deserve.

I would love to know about some of your favorite things that you do to nurture yourself. Feel free to comment here.

Remember, grab your mask first. It will all the difference to the ones you love.

Live Faithfully,
Mal

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Positive Mental Shift Telesummit Feb 5th – March 14th

A new year is here!

Are you ready to start living your life with passion and purpose?

It is possible – no matter what your life circumstances look like at this moment. As part of the global Alpha Chick family you know how passionate I am about empowering, inspiring and supporting women in awakening and claiming the power within. The Alpha Chick vision is of a world where women discover and embrace their authentic voice and live a life filled with self-love, joy and abundance. It is possible!

It is with that vision that I invite you to join me and 12 inspiring women for the free six week Positive Mental Shift: Living a Life of Passion and Purpose teleseries launching on February 5^th, 2013.We’ve all heard stories of women who have overcome seemingly impossible obstacles and transformed their lives and wondered how they did it! Well, wonder no more!I’ve invited 12 inspiring women – from best-selling authors to leading transformational coaches – to join me in a series of very intimate, heart-to-heart conversations. Women who have bravely agreed to share their personal (and sometimes painful) stories of awakening and personal transformation. No holds barred. Meet all my Inspiring Guests >>//bit.ly/positiveshift

I am honored to bring you the stories and wisdom of these 12 inspiring women who have awakened to their inner truth and are joining me with the collective intent to empower YOUto believe in the power of possibility.

Women just like you who have discovered the tools and inner strength to overcome self-defeating thoughts and habits & obstacles to live a life of passion & purpose. Each woman knows first-hand what it takes to move forward, break through life’s roadblocks and release the self-doubt that once held her back.

Our collective vision is that every woman awakens to the truth of who she is and boldly, bravely lives a life of passion and purpose.

REGISTER TODAY > >>//bit.ly/positiveshift

I’m honored to be your guide throughout this transformational six week series launching on Tuesday February 5^th. Your FREE registration includes access to all the live calls as well as thereplay links and 12 free transformational gifts from my guests. (No products or audios to purchase – just pure wisdom and inspiration)

I’ve always been inspired by women’s stories of hope, faith and transformation and throughout my own personal struggles it was those stories that gave me hope and inspiration to hold on to my dreams. It is with that intent that I’ve invited these inspiring women to join me for this powerful free series and hope you will join us.

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Join us beginning February 5^th for the Positive Mental Shift series where you will discover how you can

Let Go of Past Perceptions and Old Stories that have been weighing you down!
Release the Limiting Beliefs that are holding you back from living a life of passion and purpose!
Understand Where Change is Needed in Your Life and the steps to move forward!
Claim the Happiness you Desire AND Deserve! You’ve struggled long enough!
Access Your Inner Wisdom that has always been there waiting for you!
Take the Conscious Action Steps to start living the life you envision!

And much, much more. It’s time to awaken the Alpha Chick within and your journey begins here

Register today for FREE ACCESS to all 12 Live calls (and Replays) as well as the 12 free transformational gifts.

After registering be sure to watch for your “confirmation email’ so I can send you the access info and replay links.

I look forward to “seeing” you there!

Live Faithfully,

Mal Duane
Host
Recovery and Empowerment Coach
Bestselling Author

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P.S.S. Forward this email invitation to the women in your life! Let’s create a world where ALL women are living a life of passion and purpose.