3 Tips for Healing After Emotional Turmoil

I am feeling so much love for all the women who have trusted me and purchased Broken Open.

Every word, every lesson in the book is intended to lift you up from feelings of unworthiness and heartache.

Emotional pain is a very strong energy that can consume you without you really being aware.

It slowly sucks the life out of you and then ultimately, your ability to make rational decisions.

You end up being triggered, highly reactive and making poor choices.

Decisions driven by anger and resentment get you more of the same. It’s a vicious cycle. In the book I offer many practices to help you recognize when you are stuck in that dark place and things to do to get out of it.

You never want to make big decisions while under the throes of emotional craziness.

Step back, breath and take some time to reconnect with your body and get out of your screaming head.

Put your hands over your heart and tell the wounded little girl inside you that you have got this.

Let her know there is nothing to fear.

Sadly, you can’t change a situation after you have blurted out in anger your irrational demands.

After the book launch, I went straight to Kripalu to decompress from all the magnificent energy of birthing Broken Open, I spent the weekend in a class with one of my favorites, Matt Kahn who teaches love heals everything.

Here are few of his key takeaways:

3 Tips for Healing After Emotional Turmoil

You can’t create healing for yourself when you're stuck in judgment
If you don’t have what you want, it must not be what you need.
When you take time to love yourself, you have that much more to give to the world.

What do you think of his tips? Comment below and share!

5 Steps to Turn Your Dreams to Reality

Do you have a big, juicy, audacious dream?

Something that makes you tingle from your head to the tips of your toes?

Something so fabulous that your inner mean girl says, “no freaking way!" ?

Well ladybug, no dream is too big!

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If it couldn’t happen, you wouldn’t be able to think about it. It means that if you can see it, it already exists somewhere in the cosmos. Shit, nobody ever told me that when I was growing up!

Let me give you some examples. When I was kid, I had a problem reading. I had to take special remedial reading classes. When I decided to write a book in 2009, I could see it, I could feel it.

However, based on my previous challenges, I was probably a long shot. I held the vision and in 2012, Alpha Chick was released and became an Amazon Best Seller with six literary awards.

Since my first book, I have connected with women from all over the globe who've shared my passion to serve women in a meaningful and empowering way. I have to be honest, I never thought I would be emailing and personally interviewing them for my podcast! This is just another example of holding a powerful vision.

In my last email, I suggested taking pictures of your dreams and putting them in a folder.

Now I am challenging you to take action on those dreams.

Here are 5 Steps to Turn Your Dreams to Reality

Who do you need to help you with your dream/vision? Think big again, don’t be shy!
What do you need to do to start the process? Creating a mind map or good outline are excellent places to start.
What are the first three steps you can take to start creating it?
How long do you need to make this happen? Create a time table for yourself. Put dates in your calendar for accountability.
What resources or research do you need?

My own bursts of inspiration have come from going through incredible challenges and difficult things that have knocked me to my knees. I’m suggesting you start manifesting before life throws you an unexpected curveball.

What's a dream you've been dreaming but haven't yet taken action?

Comment below and tell me 3 steps you'll take to make it a reality!

How to Manifest What you Want

You might think that taking care of everyone else’s needs first is going to win you a merit badge. Well truth be told, no one is going to hand you an award, but they will continue to take advantage. Not that they are being A-holes, they’re just used to you to sacrificing yourself on their behalf. Do you think it might be time to change?

Why do women put themselves last?

I know part of it comes from conditioning as a child. Don’t take too much, leave some for others. Wait your turn. Then it snowballs from there. By the time we are grown women in relationships, we accept the breadcrumbs thrown our way. Well my sweet, I think you deserve the whole freaking bakery.

It’s time to stop depriving yourself of what you want, what makes you happy and the things that will really float your boat.

You need to start treating you like #1 and the rest of the planet will get a wakeup call.

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I will repeat this until I am blue in the face: you are worthy, you are actually a divine being made of the same stuff as the stars and the ocean.

You are a part of source energy.

So, start treating yourself like you have value.

Whether you’re married, spoken for or flying solo, you need me-time. Time where you do yummy things just for you. Maybe it’s a dance class, an art class, a meet up or spa visit. You need to treat yourself to things that fire you up.

Here’s your homework: Have fun with this!

Make a list of the top ten things you wish you could have or do.

Take pictures and then more pictures of them from magazines, brochures etc. with your phone.

Create a new folder for all of them, call it Dreams or Vision board.

Start looking at those pictures every day and ideas will start to come to you on what you need to do to make it happen.

I have shared my folder for 2018. I went to India, traveled to California two times, took some amazing classes, went on a few shopping sprees and bought myself some really nice things. I wote a new book and took really good care of myself.

Nothing is out of your reach. You can have anything you want if you allow yourself to.

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I have got some great wish pics in 2019 my folder. I made a New York Time Best Seller image for my new book, Broken Open. I have a condo in Solano Beach, CA and I am going to Israel (I’m actually leaving very soon) and taking a luxurious cruise from Singapore to Hong Kong and it’s only February. I’ll keep looking at my DREAM folder and adding to it.

The first step in this manifestation process is knowing you are deserving of it. Then seeing it, believing it, and finally living as if it is done and on its way.

What are the top 5 things you want to manifest in the next few months? Tell me below in the comments!

3 Self-Care Rituals to Empower You

Here’s the scoop: life is what you are going to make it. It may have taken me seventy years to learn that but now I want to give you a crash course.

What you think, how you feel and the choices you make are either going to create a shit show or something that is truly blissful.

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I’m all for bliss. Every day, I get up with the intention to have a really good day - and 99% of the time I do.

There are few exceptions, only those related to the freakin' frigid weather since my body no longer tolerates below freezing. Even the sound of that makes me shiver. Most days in the winter I go out looking like a seven-layer cake. I have so many layers under layers that if I met a hottie it would take him a week to get my clothes off. (Wishful thinking )What I’m trying to tell you is that I have no complaints about anything other than feeling like I have an icicle in my pants.

So, how did I get so blissful? With rituals and spiritual practices that feed my soul, stimulate my consciousness and enhance my physicality.

Below are my top rituals and spiritual practices to empower you.

1. Mindset

Every morning - first thing - check your mindset. Do you feel off? If so, start asking yourself why. Sit with it, see what comes up. Take a few extra minutes to see what’s going on in your head.

Once you feel more settled, try setting an intention to create an amazing day. Flip your mindset to something positive, intend to feel more empowered and watch how differently your day unfolds.

2. Inspirational Reading

A biggy for me the past several months is my new reading practice. I select books that teach me how to be a better, stronger and more evolved woman. I almost never watch TV anymore. The shows I liked seem to have lost their sizzle. Of course, until Game of Thrones comes back on in April. My fave reads are spiritual in nature, each one opening me up to a new practice.

A powerful suggestion for you is Matt Kahn’s new book, Everything is Here to Help You.

This will stimulate some serious self-reflection and journaling exercises. Honestly, that’s where all the transformation starts.

3. Essential Oils

The past few months, I've learned about crystals, angels, numerology and essential oils - and I’m hooked. I want to know more. This stuff is crazy good for women and improving our day to day lives - especially essential oils. I’ll be sharing more over the next few months. I diffuse daily while I’m at home working and do a little anointing with my doTerra “InTune “roll on. I use Breathe when I have the sniffles and Frankincense before my mediation practice.

Try putting a little oil on that sacred temple of yours put as few drops in your bath water.

If you're interested in Essential Oils, there is no one better than my girl Katy Shem.

What are some of your favorite self-care rituals to feel empowered? Comment below and let me know!

Get In Touch With Who You Are!

I made a post on Facebook the other day which has inspired that I write this post. I had the most amazing revelation while lying in bed that I am in this totally awesome relationship with myself. It may sound weird but let me explain. This year I have traveled the globe, taken courses, seen movies, tried new restaurants, exercise classes and more…all by myself. And loved every minute of it.

I don’t need to ask for permission or arrange my schedule according to someone else’s. Total blissful freedom to do as I please. I get to keep my favorite books on the bed, get up when I want and wear my comfy jammies at the breakfast table.

Truth be told, I’m having a blast not needing a man in my life. I’m actually thinking of starting a video series called the Single Girl Chronicles to show single women how to have fun!

I have to share this quote with you from Eternal Echoes by John O’Donohue:

Even without the outside lover, you can become the beloved. When you awaken in appreciation and love for yourself, springtime awakens in your heart.

There are so many women who don’t have men in their lives and they feel stuck, lost and alone.

I’ve honestly felt that at times in my own life – but not anymore. I am discovering that you can do lots of wonderful things being single. You don’t need a man to have FUN! It all comes back to what I talk so much about. How you feel about yourself. If you don’t like yourself, you’re not going to be happy alone. Building that confidence of being alone opens you to so many options. Learning new things, taking classes and travel are just a few of my favorites.

For those girls in a relationship, develop some interests separate from your man. A little independence is good for the soul-for the both of you!

More women are uncovering that their own company is a whole lot more fun than crappy company with someone who doesn’t inspire them!

Whether you’re single or happily taken, comment below and tell me about something you can do for YOURSELF (new or old) to HAVE FUN and get in touch with who you are!