Speaking from the heart

Truth Be Told

I need to come clean and tell you the truth about something. The past three months I have emailed you almost weekly about interviews I did on various tele-summits. Well enough is enough.

It’s time for me to connect with you and stop hiding behind the free stuff.

The truth is that all these projects over the winter months helped me find my voice, reclaim my power and recalibrate my focus. I needed to prove to myself that I was back from my sorrow, maybe even better than before. The only way I could do that was to test myself repeatedly. I talked about painful stuff without breaking down.

Maybe some of you liked the interviews/shows or maybe not. I just want you to know I wasn’t trying to be disrespectful of your email. Thank you for hanging in there with me. I think some of the shows I did were great interviews because I spoke from my heart, hoping to help others heal and create new love in their lives.

I am very excited about creating my new Podcast because I get to handpick each person I want to interview. I love powerful stories of personal challenge and growth. I will continue to update you on new shows.

Over the next several months my intent is to share with you from the depths of my heart what I have learned about resilience, advocating for yourself and getting back into your light after being knocked down.

Most of you know I experienced a massive betrayal in my marriage and then a divorce over the past three years. It all came at me at a time I thought I knew it all. How wrong was my perception? I am back, stronger and feeling so good about me moving forward. It took a lot of work which is still ongoing but I am really good.

My pledge going forward is I am opening myself to you completely. I’m going to get emotionally naked. I have nothing to hide. Owning my own truth is the most exhilarating feeling and it puts me firmly in my power.

My mentor, Hiro said something powerful to me the other day. “Maybe learning from a place of pain is over rated and we should start learning from joy”.

I have always believed my greatest teachers have been my most painful challenges. But I’m changing that mindset to my greatest wins. Because that is what they were. Every challenge pushed me to a higher level of self-awareness, self-love and compassion for others.

If you are splashing in murky waters, you know how to find me. Go to my website, www.malduanecoach.com.

After being with Tony Robbins in CA the last week of March, coming home and getting sick, I realized it was probably a massive detox of letting go of the old and welcoming in the new. After three weeks of total rest and self-care, I’m ready to bring it on!

In the next few weeks I am going to announce some new things I would like to do for all of you and get your opinion on them. A new Facebook group dedicated to “Loving Smart” with a weekly conference call. We all can experience more love when we get out of our own way. I will be sharing how to create more love in your life after your heart has been shattered. I think we have all been there.

My next Podcast on Awakening Divine Wildness is May 1^st with the amazing Michelle Mercier the founder of “Create Honesty”.

I so appreciate you! I started this journey in February 2012. It has been five years now and many of you have been getting my emails for almost that long. I guess we have gone through some serious shit together.

Sending you big love,

Don’t Be Afraid to Be You

I have spent the past several months just recouping my energy, connecting with gratitude daily and getting clear about my life. Every day since the beginning of the year, the word authenticity keeps coming to me. I guess it is trying to tell me something.

I am in touch with my thoughts and feelings. I am also completely honest about them with other people. I don’t feel like I need to put a superwoman cape on anymore. Life has shown me through recent challenges how resilient I am. I know how to advocate for myself and most of all its ok to feel like a woman. I don’t need to mask my emotions and hide my pain.

Today I am writing this with a big snowstorm outside, I am home burning candles with my fur baby Hannah pressed next to me feeling complete bliss. I’m relaxed, peaceful and appreciating every moment, no expectations or attachments clouding my thinking from being present. Honestly, I haven’t been this present in years. I didn’t realize how distracted I had become.

It all comes down to living full out and being me, not being afraid to be me!

The bliss I’m referring to is that pure joy you experienced as a child when you were dancing and singing without a care. You never thought about people watching and what they were thinking. You were just doing your “thing” unrestricted, openly and authentically. You were that little girl that could announce to a room full of people that she had to poop. (Could you do any of that today?)

My name for this unrestricted, untamed happiness is #divine wildness. You all have it in you but it gets buried when others criticize you. It means being the goddess, the diva, the divine feminine whatever you want to call it. I personally connect with #divine wildness.

It is the powerful feminine energy running through your body that inspires the authentic you, the bold heart-centered unrestricted you.

This feminine energy is so powerful it has inspired men to become women this year. It toppled several high profile political careers and is the main thread for most of the advertising we are bombarded with. It is powerful beyond measure.

Over the next few months I am creating a new podcast interviewing women who live tuned in and turned on by #divine wildness. Their authentic stories will light up the wildness in you!

I promise they will inspire you to embrace more of you in 2017. I invite you to walk this path with me and my guests. Let’s have fun and blast out of whatever is holding you back

To the Divine Wildness in you!

Big Love,
Mal

Falling Into Grace: get out of your head and into your heart

The last few weeks I have been caught up in significant decisions. I kept finding myself thinking and rethinking what I should do. The more I thought, the further away I was from a conclusion. Does this sound familiar?

My first big lesson came on Easter Sunday while I was listening to Adyashanti with Oprah on Super Soul Sunday.

As I listened to him speak it became so apparent to me that I was buried in my thoughts – and furthermore that my thoughts may not be the truth. Yikes!

Instead, I realized that my thoughts are my perceptions, my interpretations of reality but not necessarily the complete truth. I wondered what would happen if I listened to my heart instead.

Immediately, I was resurrected from my mind and felt a calming sensation come over me that brought tears to my eyes. In that instant I knew I was connected to my heart. I had the answer. My path towards finding a conclusion was clear.

My second big lesson happened in Santa Fe just a few days ago. What a beautiful place for self-reflection and learning. Having tried many times to get into this very popular class I was finally participating in a Transformational Speaking program with the amazing Gail Larsen.

Gail is famous for helping people discover their voice, not the one in their head but the one they carry in their heart. When I showed up, I honestly felt that I was proficient at speaking from the heart. Well, that theory got thrown out the window in about the first hour of our work together!

Gail’s program is about speaking as if you are having a heartfelt conversation with an intimate friend.

Sounds easy. Right! Over the next four days I had to dig deeper and deeper to bring that voice forward. I was prepared to do the work and it took a tremendous amount of introspection, adaptation and integration to birth what I came for.

On Sunday we had to give another presentation to the group, putting into practice what we had learned, and my intention was to talk from the soul. I mapped it out on my board the night before but didn’t rehearse too much. I didn’t want to sound like I was giving a canned presentation.

I took my place in front of the class. My voice was significantly lower than before, my body movement much more calm. I spoke about the importance of healing a broken heart so that we may reclaim our lives. My fellow classmates listened intently. Gail was making her insightful critique as I proceeded. Was it perfect? Absolutely not but it was significantly more from the heart than my previous attempt.

We don’t realize how difficult it can be to access that voice. It takes practice and courage. Yes courage! It is so much easier to express what is in our heads rather than what is in our hearts. Until you connect with the silence within you, you can’t fully appreciate the power of it.

The program is about so much more than just public speaking, it is really about discovering what is buried within that needs to come up and be revealed. It was an amazing experience to speak so fully from the heart and it was so exciting to watch my classmates transform in front of my eyes. The pretenses we all came in with were stripped away.

As I leave Santa Fe today, I have so much gratitude for the opportunity to be part of this program. It was another giant step in my personal journey.

Thank you Gail Larsen for creating such a safe and comforting environment for all of us. A place where we fell into grace with ease. Thank you to my beautiful transformational sisters for being willing to share so much of yourselves.

As much as we think we know, there is always more to learn. Life will continue to present us with ongoing lessons from the places we expect least. I know I wasn’t expecting to have a massive revelation on Easter Sunday listening to Adyashanti or when I was participating in a transformational speaking class. However, my heart had a different idea than my head and I now realize that the lessons I learn become shining stars in the sky so I can see my path better in the dark.

I would love to hear about a surprising revelation you have had when you least expect it. Please share it here, on Facebook or tweet it.

Live Faithfully,

Mal

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Mal Duane is a Best Selling Author and Personal Life and Recovery Coach who has overcome life challenges using the steps in the Alpha Chick Process. Her personal mission is to help women excel in all areas of their lives from business to personal relationships. Mal has been featured with Fox 25 Boston Morning Show, CBS Radio, Aspire Magazine, Healthy Living and Metrowest Daily News. She has also been a featured guest on over one hundred Blogtalk Radio shows discussing recovery and personal transformation.

Mal’s book, Alpha Chick, Five Steps for Moving from Pain to Power, is a best selling book and is available on Amazon.com.