Visualization

How to Manifest What you Want

You might think that taking care of everyone else’s needs first is going to win you a merit badge. Well truth be told, no one is going to hand you an award, but they will continue to take advantage. Not that they are being A-holes, they’re just used to you to sacrificing yourself on their behalf. Do you think it might be time to change?

Why do women put themselves last?

I know part of it comes from conditioning as a child. Don’t take too much, leave some for others. Wait your turn. Then it snowballs from there. By the time we are grown women in relationships, we accept the breadcrumbs thrown our way. Well my sweet, I think you deserve the whole freaking bakery.

It’s time to stop depriving yourself of what you want, what makes you happy and the things that will really float your boat.

You need to start treating you like #1 and the rest of the planet will get a wakeup call.

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I will repeat this until I am blue in the face: you are worthy, you are actually a divine being made of the same stuff as the stars and the ocean.

You are a part of source energy.

So, start treating yourself like you have value.

Whether you’re married, spoken for or flying solo, you need me-time. Time where you do yummy things just for you. Maybe it’s a dance class, an art class, a meet up or spa visit. You need to treat yourself to things that fire you up.

Here’s your homework: Have fun with this!

Make a list of the top ten things you wish you could have or do.

Take pictures and then more pictures of them from magazines, brochures etc. with your phone.

Create a new folder for all of them, call it Dreams or Vision board.

Start looking at those pictures every day and ideas will start to come to you on what you need to do to make it happen.

I have shared my folder for 2018. I went to India, traveled to California two times, took some amazing classes, went on a few shopping sprees and bought myself some really nice things. I wote a new book and took really good care of myself.

Nothing is out of your reach. You can have anything you want if you allow yourself to.

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I have got some great wish pics in 2019 my folder. I made a New York Time Best Seller image for my new book, Broken Open. I have a condo in Solano Beach, CA and I am going to Israel (I’m actually leaving very soon) and taking a luxurious cruise from Singapore to Hong Kong and it’s only February. I’ll keep looking at my DREAM folder and adding to it.

The first step in this manifestation process is knowing you are deserving of it. Then seeing it, believing it, and finally living as if it is done and on its way.

What are the top 5 things you want to manifest in the next few months? Tell me below in the comments!

Remembering Loved Ones

It was Memorial Day this past weekend and everywhere you looked or read there were posts about remembering our service men and women who gave their lives for their country. What mixed emotions for their families. They are so proud of their sacrifice and yet still feel the pain of their loss.

There is also remembering those that we loved who have passed. It can be a span of many years and you still feel the sadness. I went to the cemetery to plant flowers at my mother and father’s grave. I think it is also part of an old religious tradition that I was introduced to as a child when I would accompany my mother to my grandmother’s grave for Memorial Day and Christmas time. I have often joked that if I didn’t go lightning would probably strike my car or a tree close by me as a warning to get my ass over there.

Surprisingly when I got to the cemetery early Sunday morning, it was so busy. There were flags everywhere on the military graves and fresh flowers or plantings on so many others. I am so glad I went. However, I left feeling sad that they are no longer with me but I know they are always in my heart.

When I got home, I decided to meditate which stirred up more feelings of loss for my beautiful niece. I held a tiny little pillow in my hands for about thirty minutes that she gave me for her last Christmas before she died. It was so beautiful, I could feel her presence so close to me. My heart was exploding with love.

I realized something right then. What a beautiful spiritual practice this is to feel a deeper connection to a lost loved one.

If you have someone you would like to “spiritually connect” with, hold a picture or an item that belonged to them.

Close your eyes and just feel the energy of the item in your hand.

Send your love to them.

Visualize a ray of light coming out of your heart and touching the item in your hand.

Embrace the stillness and allow your feelings of love to expand from your heart.

Just be open to anything you feel.

You may want to journal afterwards any thoughts or images that you experienced.

I had a powerful realization that my loved ones are very close to me and I should never feel alone. I may not be able to physically see them but my spiritual eyes can.

I hope you will try this mediation. Be patient and practice.

I am a ray of love to all my friends and family

Journal Prompt: What emotions are emerging from your new meditation?

Praise and Celebrate Life

The more you praise and celebrate life, the more there is in life to celebrate.
-Oprah Winfrey

In light of Oprah’s show coming to an end this week, I felt it appropriate to use a quote by this magnificent woman. I personally cannot think of another woman who overcame so much in their personal lives. I listened to her last week speaking of when she was a small child forced to sleep on a porch because her relative that was supposed to care for her did not like her. She has spoken openly of her abuse, her troublesome teen years, failed relationships and constant battle with her weight.

As she matured, she obviously developed a vision of how she wanted her life to be. It is apparent she never lost sight of it. Through incredible hard work, focus and determination, she created a media empire, second to none. When a woman taps into their divine will, never discouraged determination and a burning desire to help others, they become unstoppable. We are all born with divine will; we just need to take the time to find it.

Thank you Oprah for all you have done in the past twenty five years to help women worldwide. I know you have inspired me personally to do more, give more and live life to the fullest.

You are an Alpha Chick Queen.

Action Step: What vision do you have for your life that you are willing to work on with unstoppable determination? Please share with us on AlphaChick.com and Facebook.

Mal Duane
Alpha Chick